Dichotomy

I am about to right something for my blog after quite a long period of time. The reasons for this range from reluctance to scarcity of time. Whatever may be the reasons for not writing something, it doesn't stop the various things to happen in life. Sometimes I feel that nothing is new in life. There are certain sets of different feelings which overwhelm you at different points of time. Something happens and you feel that you belong to no one in this world and after sometime you feel that entire world is only for you! Anyways, I want to share my thoughts today on a different topic or rather should I say dichotomy in our lives! Dichotomy; although I have used this word out of ingenuity but at the same time I have exposed my educational background for questioning by certain highly educated and sophisticated persons of our time who think using word like this is their prerogative. Anyway, I feel I got distracted in the beginning itself. I want to discuss the inherent human characteristic of conviction in what they believe. Prima facie there is nothing wrong in having conviction. Instead it is a sign of thoughtful minds. Without conviction one cannot even learn to walk. But when the conviction is not accompanied by thoughts it becomes orthodoxy. Everyone feels that in this entire universe only he is right. So who is wrong? Dichotomy creeps in when we think in one way when it comes to us, and different altogether when it comes to others. Although I feel that my mind is logical but I too am a victim of this dichotomy. It is so painful to understand that others may also have certain impediments and reasons in their way. Although a person may feel what I am saying is right but at the same time he may not be able to act on the same. Does that make him a non believer? I think not... but my hatred would say yes! This is again a dichotomy a duality in my behaviour.

Let’s leave it. I just uttered all this to curse myself in front of others... It helps a lot in purification of thoughts and mind.

The other thing which I want to highlight is that as a socially bounded creatures we behave in many ways with our fellow human beings. Of course there is again an existence of dichotomy in our behaviors that we pretend a lot when we behave with society. But most will agree with me that his pretending comes down considerably (it never gets eliminated in mortals) when we are in front of our loved ones. And here comes another problem of hurting them. Since we are just what we actually are (or most near to it) when we are with our loved ones... we often insist on making them do certain things which we like. I am not saying the what we insist upon is entirely unreasonable but still why do we presume that others will be in possession of certain amount of courage and willingness for doing the same? This insistence cause friction and hence we hurt the people we love most.

Today due to scarcity of time and my mind’s engagements in certain other things, I am able to right only this... rest later sometime.